Monday, November 28, 2005

It's not fair!

You can call an unmarried man, no matter what his age, a "bachelor" and never have been offensive or rude.

But yet there are two choices of title for the unmarried woman, and both of them bring insult. Isn't there another way to refer to unmarried women, besides "spinsters" or "old maids"???


Blogger Samara said...

I like the sound of "lady bachelor", but some might think that implies a feminine version of the old-timey "confirmed bachelor". "Singleton" is also OK... was there an incident that raised this question? :)

11/28/2005 6:06 PM  
Blogger Susan said...

What about "unmarried woman"? :)

I usually use "single woman" or "single young lady."

11/28/2005 9:47 PM  
Blogger Jessie said...

Last week when I first read your comment here, Samara, I was going to reply, no other reason than my funny little meandering thoughts. But since then a woman I've known forever but haven't seen in a while, asked me if I was married yet (umm, no, I'm only 19-- "yet"??) or if I had a boyfried (and a "no" to that one too). So apparently it's time for me to get used to old-maidenhood : ) I just wanted a better name for it.

I remembered that "bachelorette" is also a name for a single lady, but... well, it just doesn't seem to reflect what I want to be know as ; )

Single woman/ young lady are nice and un-offensive, though- you're right, Susan. I asked my mom why it was that "bachelor" brings no offense but saying the same about a woman can be an insult sometimes. She said it's because the man has the "power" to go out and find a wife, and fix the situation. A single woman, on the other hand, has to wait to be picked. So if she's been waiting for a very long time, and nobody's picked her yet-- well, maybe there's a reason : D

But unfortunately, it's not always a reason that's bad on the woman's part. Sometimes there just aren't any good guys out there you want to be picked by!! I think this case is becoming all too prevelant among Christians, for some sad reason.

12/02/2005 6:21 PM  
Blogger Susan said...

Doug Phillips thinks that the lack of godly young men is actually a judgment on America. It's an interesting thought to consider, whether or not I am as sure as he. He cites Isaiah for his reason.

Read carefully through Isaiah chapter 3 and the first verse of chapter 4. It is eerily parallel to today.

12/02/2005 9:46 PM  
Blogger Susan said...

I liked this quote from Mrs. Chancey's latest article:

"I can understand the frustration of women who wonder where all the real men are--the ones who esteem women, admire their insights, take them seriously, and do not have any interest in exploiting them for their own pleasure. I wondered where they were at one point in my life, finally coming to the bitter conclusion that they did not exist outside of my immediate family. But they are there. They're just not looking for the girls who give themselves away at the drop of a hat (or the purchase of a beer). And they're not looking for the "superwomen" who do it all and have no need of anyone else. They are looking for Eve--their missing half. They are looking for the woman whose gifts and qualities will make them better men and complete them in every way."

12/03/2005 2:53 PM  
Blogger Adrian C. Keister said...

How about "maiden?" It has no negative connotations as far as I can tell. I can think of one snag, though. It does imply virginity which, in today's society, unfortunately cannot be taken for granted. But take this word for what it's worth.

In Christ.

1/22/2006 7:31 AM  

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